In the weeks leading up to our wedding, I was stressed the gosh-darned-heck out. I don’t have it in me to be a bridezilla, I wasn’t that kind of stressed… It was more of a “what if people don’t like the cookies I bake for the wedding gifts?” “what if something goes wrong?” “what if people don’t have fun?” kind of stressed. We planned a wedding in 2 months, in the worst year we’ve ever had. We lost our sweet, precious Charlie boy in March and there was a long time where I genuinely thought I’d never recover or feel joy again. But July came around, and we both decided that, if everything was still okay in Sydney with the virus, that we would get married in October. We booked the venue before he proposed! We had a big talk about why we weren’t married yet, and Alex said he was holding back because he thought I wanted a big wedding and he wanted a wee one (I’d said how cool it would be to have food trucks at our wedding when we were daydreaming about it 7 YEARS AGO!) and thank goodness we had that chat, because I got to tell him that all I’ve never wanted a big wedding and just wanted was our families and closest friends to be there, and in the same conversation, he decided he didn’t want to spend anymore time not being married to each other.
We decided not to tell anyone until he proposed, which didn’t happen until 3 weeks before the wedding! So I had about 2 months to plan a wedding which I thought would be easy, considering it would just be a small wedding! But I quickly found out I would be the worst event planner because planning things is not in my skillset! I just wanted to be married to my little love, I didn’t care about wine pairings!
The weather in the week leading up to the wedding mirrored how anxious I was about everything; it was raining and the forecast for our wedding day was severe thunderstorms. The day before I was crying every hour because I was worried something would go wrong. Mum and my sister Colette stayed with me at our place the night before and I’ll forever treasure the memory of them looking after me when I was blubbering and stressing out. We all went to sleep and mum told me how proud she was of me and that once I see my Alpal, I’ll forget about everything else. And just like with everything else, she was so right. I woke up on our wedding day happier than I’d ever been and skipped around the house while Lettie and mum sang “Gooooing to Pilu and she’s…. Gonna get married!” and it was just perfect! It was absolutely bucketing down outside but I was just SO happy– I was marrying my Alpal in a few hours! I smoothed a sheet mask onto my face while mum and Lettie drove down to Starbucks to get me a Pumpkin Spice Cold Brew, because you don’t stop being a basic b on your wedding day! My beautiful friend and hairdresser Danielle came over at 8am to do my hair and the whole morning was so exciting! My best friend Mez came just after and we all chatted and giggled while we got ready. I decided to do my own makeup because I didn’t love the idea of someone I didn’t know touching my face with everything going on (even though we hadn’t had any covid cases for months) and Mez did my eye makeup. We played songs through our little bluetooth speaker that would probably be deemed as inappropriate for someone who’s about to get married, but you can’t sip on a Pumpkin Spice Cold Brew and not listen to Notorious B.I.G. when you’re getting ready for your wedding… Der?
We were getting married at 11:30am and at about 10:30, it stopped raining and the sun came out. I really felt like it was the universe or God or Charlie’s way of saying, “Yep. You’re meant to get married today and it’s meant to be perfect for you.” It stayed sunny from that moment until we left the venue at 4:30pm– you wouldn’t read about it! (Except you are reading about it right now.)
We chose Pilu for our wedding venue because we’d always wanted to go there and figured, what better occasion than our wedding to go?! The food there looked incredible and the location was just delicious, and the big winner- you could have the ceremony and reception at the same place!
I walked down the aisle to “Simply the Best” by Noah Ried from Schitt’s Creek. My dad walked with me and mum met us at the top of the aisle for a cuddle, and then dad handed me over to Alex. Alex looked so stinking handsome. He always does! Our celebrant, Danielle, was wonderful, and very accomodating when we told her we didn’t want a long ceremony. We decided against asking people to do readings because a few of our loved ones would be doing speeches at the lunch, anyway. We had the same vows as each other, Alex deciding that what I wrote in mine was exactly how he felt about me! I couldn’t wait to give him a big smooch and cuddle once Danielle said “you may now kiss your bride” and gosh, we were both just so happy! We signed the register to “God Only Knows” by She and Him and walked down the aisle to “Home” by Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeroes.
We had photos while everyone else was served anti-pasto platters and margaritas (they usually offer an Aeperol Spritz or Bellini at Pilu in the wedding packages but your girl Lou Boo loves a marg and they were so happy to serve them instead! (Not as happy as I was though, know what I’m saying? Margs are the perfect cocktail, no questions, please!)
Our photographer was our beautiful friend Amy and her sister Erin came along to help, too! We were both so honoured that Amy agreed to take photos on the day because she is such a talented nature photographer so we were a wee bit different to her usual models! But gosh we could not be happier with the beautiful photos she and Erin took and how relaxed and at ease she made us feel (both of us hate photos being taken of us!)
One thing I know about our special day is that it wouldn’t have been half as beautiful without White House Flowers. I worked with the gorgeous Mel who truly went above and beyond for us and I will forever be obsessed with the stunning arrangements she made! Like… Can you believe?!
Now, the food? Delectable. We didn’t get any photos of the meals but you can have a squiz at the menu to see what we had! The pork belly was my favourite and if you can, you should go for a meal at Pilu just so you can have the Tiramisu for dessert! Perfection!
We were so lucky to spend our wedding day with our beautiful families and friends. There were 28 guests including Alex and I. We so would’ve loved more of our friends and our families in the U.S. and Scotland to be there, but we’ll definitely have a proper celebration when it’s safe to do so!
The speeches were one of my favourite parts of the day. Alex’s brother Nic did an amazing speech, as did Mez, Alex’s dad, my dad and our friend Ben. They were just so lovely and I could cry thinking about them all again! The biggest shock for me was Alex’s speech. I thought he was going to do a short toast to thank everyone for coming, but he really knocked it out of the park when he spoke about, and to me. We’re both a bit annoyed because he didn’t keep the piece of paper he wrote it on, but every word of it was perfect and had me soaking my napkin with happy tears.
I could go on about the day forever, but I think the photos say the rest. (In saying that, though, I’ll do another post just on the planning and finer details of the wedding, too! Coming soon to a blog near you! This one, specifically.)
Venue: Pilu at Freshwater
Dress: Belle and Kai on Etsy
Rings: Mine: Natalie Marie Jewellery
Alex: Sarah & Sebastian
Jewellery: My ‘Charlie’ necklace and earrings and necklace from Amber Sceats
Shoes: ASOS (can’t even find the link for them, but I think they were $12. Just white strappy flats. Nothing to write home about!)
Invitations and menus: The Design Pom on Etsy
Florist: White House Flowers
Cake: Mrs Jones the Baker
Celebrant: Danielle DuBois
Photographer: Amy Mercer
Bonbonniere: Cookies baked by me!
Music: We couldn’t have amplified music due to covid but were able to play this spotify playlist I made through a bluetooth speaker that kept breaking throughout lunch! But I don’t think anyone cared too much.